By Natalie Bagley
In a particularly difficult time in my life, before I became a therapist, I remember feeling deep frustration and confusion when I tried to seek help from those around me. As I shared how I was feeling, I was told it’s “just” the “blues”, it’s a condition of your heart, you need to pray more, or was given actions to take without truly feeling heard or understood. At times the action was clear, but something kept me stuck… I was unable to move forward. In fact, part of the problem was that I didn’t know what was going on inside me – all I knew, was that I was becoming increasingly depressed and angry, and I didn’t know how to release or understand the pain that was trapped in my body…
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“Every mess, every less than glorious interaction with those whom we fail to love well, reveals something about our heart that God longs to redeem! His intention is not to shame us into obedience or burden us with guilt, but to invite us towards greater rest, love, and freedom.” In this personal piece, Heather invites us to try an unexpected response to life’s icky moments.
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Conflict is inevitable. Having things go down in heated flames is not. In this short article, Ray Myers, LMFT gives the reader some helpful tips to remember when you encounter that person you know can trigger your less-than-best-self.
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Is the integration of the self always the goal? It might just depend on whom you ask. In this insightful article, Jerushah Nickell invites the reader to wrestle with an approach she uses in her counseling office that pushes up against conventional wisdom, and in the process, demonstrates the tensions inherent in integrating Christian faith and common therapeutic models.
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Why not take this summer to give a needed boost to your valued relationships? Check out this great resource featuring very doable ideas for parents, couples, and friends to strengthen connections.
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In this insightful article, you’ll identify some of the common barriers that keep people from connecting with one another and the importance of “turning towards” one another.
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“Change happens when new awareness is matched with the courage and conviction to break old patterns and confront old demons.” This article introduces the Stages of Change, a helpful model used in therapy for understanding how change happens. Have you ever felt stuck in your own growth? Or incredibly frustrated by the feeling of being more invested in someone else’s change than they are themselves? If so, you’ll want to read on for helpful insight and tips.
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Fall is a special time for me. I’ve been taking a little extra time out of my day to sit out on my porch and just soak in all the colors of the leaves as they change a little each day. Certainly, I’m captivated by the bright and stunning colors, but I think what mesmerizes me the most is knowing that soon each of these vibrantly colored leaves will be gone.
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Grief is a lonely drift between life and death, joy and pain, the beautiful and horrid, between heaven and hell. To be in grief is to capture a glimpse of each, as though one could see around the corner to something near but not yet. A place all must visit one day, but few will pause to observe, to let it change them, to stretch and twist them into the beyond. That is the difference between a life lived in whole and one lived in part.
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When President Ronald Reagan proclaimed October as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month in 1988, he stated, “When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses her or his partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn’t a word to describe them.”
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It seems like every parent is familiar with the term Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder, or ADHD. No one wants their child to have the diagnosis; nonetheless it can often come as a relief to explain a child’s constant movement, hyperactivity, staring off into space, impulsivity, and what can appear to be disregard for social norms and other people.
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“Don’t cry,” “Be tough,” “Man up,” “Don’t be a… “ well you know how it goes. Men are expected to be tough, to hide their feelings and pretend like everything is ok – even when it is not.
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Domestic or intimate partner violence is one of the most common and neglected issues in our society, and it cuts across racial, ethnic, and socioeconomic lines.
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Addiction is a disease that affects all races, religions, and socioeconomic levels. No one person, or family, for that matter, is immune to addiction. Governments, counselors, patients and citizens as a whole have grappled with various ways to address and curtail addictions. From the temperance movement of the 1920s to various drug related laws that have been enacted; our society, courts, and politicians are aware that various vices exist that detrimentally affect our society at large.
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The Month of September is when most Latin Americans celebrate their Independence Day from “la tierra madre” or, “the motherland”. Because of this, September 15 – October 15 is also the month when Hispanic heritage is celebrated in the United States. As a US born Guatemalan, I love to celebrate our heritage, as well as celebrate and learn about all cultures. With this learning comes the understanding that there are certain aspects of all cultures that are to be examined and left behind for the history books rather than be kept in the stories of our ongoing lives.
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The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention’s “National Suicide Prevention Week” theme for 2018 is the Power of Connection. As they state in their website (https://afsp.org/campaigns/national-suicide-prevention-week-2018/): “Although there is no single cause of suicide, one of the risks for suicide is social isolation, and there’s scientific evidence for reducing suicide risk by making sure we connect with one another.”
One key way to build connection is to both lessen the stigma of mental illness, as well as build
awareness of what it means to live with mental illness.
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I have to admit, I am guilty of buying into this myth of “Work-Life Balance”. I put a lot of pressure on myself as a therapist to “practice what I preach”. When I find myself working too much, sleeping too little, and neglecting to take care of myself, I end up feeling like a hypocrite.
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As a teen and family therapist, the number of clients I see increases during times of transition into school. August/September and December/January are the months when people tend to call in to schedule appointments for their teenager. Here are the top three reasons why.
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It’s not uncommon for a marriage to endure trials and difficulties. Knowing why they struggle is a key step to getting back on track. Here are the top reasons why marriages suffer from a marriage therapist’s perspective.
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